Sunday, August 9, 2009

IF, BECAUSE and ALTHOUGH in LOVE

What kind of love are you pursuing?

1. The love with ‘IF’

This is a kind of love we will be received if we satisfy some expectances. If you success and have standing in the society, I’ll love you; If you can become my ideal husband, I’ll be your true woman; If you are a docile child, I’ll love you. These are the most popular love and may be there’re lots of people know about this kind. This is the kind to tie each other, I accept but on one condition and there is a driving force to make people to become egotists.

There are a lot of broken marriages because of this kind. The bridge and bridegroom don’t love by their heart, they only love by colorful images, dreams and hope to each other very much. When the illusions disappear and there is nothing likes they wanted to, they would become enemies to each other.

2. The love with ‘BECAUSE’

In this kind, a person’s loved because of some reasons. You have to have great values or suitable conditions with your lover’s standards. I love you because you’re very beautiful, famous, more special than the other, or I love you because you can ensure my life. You might laugh at those reasons, but can you be sure that you aren’t the person like that? Most people love a person because you can see the lovely characteristics of a person or that person holds your heart by some ways. May be you prefer ‘because’ than ‘if’ because ‘if’ expects you to try your best to satisfy of your lover, so you’ll feel wretched and tired. But if you are loved because you have had already features, that will be easier because you don’t have to try too much to keep that love.

However, the person who received the ‘because love’ will realize that is not different with ‘if love’ very soon. Because you don’t have 3 reasons: the tries, the incessant rivals to keep the love when you see there are lots of other characters who have the same virtue with you but more lovely than you; That will make you to be afraid of you are not really a lovely person of your lover. And the personality of a human often has 2 faces, the good face always shows off but only you know about the bad face of yourself; the third reason is you are afraid of you will have a lot of changes and you won’t be beautiful as you are at the moment. You think that you are loved because you are very beautiful, so that love will be disappeared when you don’t have beauty anymore.

3. The love with ‘ALTHOUGH’

This is really very different from the ‘if love’. It has no ties, and it also has no expectancies. This is also different from the ‘because love’, because it does not arise from the seductive features of yourself. An ugliest or a poorest person in this life could be loved when he/she meets the ‘although love’. He/she does not meet any pressure, he/she does not have to rival or be afraid of his/her standing to keep his/her love. He/she receives his/her love just because he/she is loved. Although he/she has mistake, stupidity, ugliness or cruelty, he/she still could be loved.
This is the kind of love that we really expect because it’s true, profound and disinterested. Although you are aware of this love or not, it’s really very important with you: more important than food, water, property, high position or houses. It’s the anchor to keep you with the life. You could be alive because you’re receiving a part of the ‘although love’ (There are lots of them in the love of parents with the children.), or because of you still hope that one day you will have this love. However, in the real life you can find the complete ‘although love’ difficultly, because whoever really wants to receive this love from the others, but you often sent the ‘if love’ and ‘because love’.

In fact, the loves can be viable because of the association of three of ‘if’, ‘because’ and ‘although’. The love will be strong if you can sacrifice, real love and understand to each other. The love will be strong because both of two people really want to think about the future and repair for it. The love will be strong forever although both of two people have a lot of differences.

I hope that everyone could find a real love which one is your best wish.

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